bi sexual urges and post-nut clarity

[stephmtl]

Hi all, I'm a bi married guy. Not a lot of experience, but navigating my way as a guy that loves women but has urges for m2m play as well. I have an older friend that I get together with from time to time to have some good times. But often once I shoot I am not so into it. This can be awkward. As he takes alot longer to get off. I try to give him a lot more stimulation early but he is aroused by me cumming. This has led to some awkward moments where I m into it, but once I ve had an amazing climax Im suddenly feeling different as I realize I am here with this there with this guys cock in my mouth, and I'm looking at balls as he is still postining in and out of my mouth - and I m like how did I get here? wtf am I doing taking this risk? And even as this feels awkward I'm turned on ahead of time by knowing I owe it to him to continue to suck him off. I keep putting myself in this taboo of being used is a turnon before the deed - but hard to follow through with once I ve cum. Anyone else have a similar feeling or experience?

[Lucky 61]

What you're feeling isn't uncommon at all and I can relate. I really try to make my playmates get off first.

[DLazguy]

What you're feeling isn't uncommon at all and I can relate. I really try to make my playmates get off first.

I was this way too when I would meet up with guys to get a bj. I'd cum and lose interest. I'd also panic about diseases, or my wife or someone I know finding out.

[stephmtl]

I was this way too when I would meet up with guys to get a bj. I'd cum and lose interest. I'd also panic about diseases, or my wife or someone I know finding out.

Have you adapted? gotten used to it or adjusted your behavior?

[stephmtl]

I also get turned on by the thought that after I cum I will be there stuck with my partner - a stocky older man - with his cock in my mouth using it to pleasure himself. I don't get hard again but I guess I m enjoying the submission of it....

[chongster]

I lose interest after I blow my load but I will still hang in there and suck my partner off if he wants it. I'm a top when it comes to fucking and sometimes the guys I fuck don't want to cum, I don't get it but to each their own.

[DLazguy]

Have you adapted? gotten used to it or adjusted your behavior?

Now that I've opened up or accepted I'm bi, I don't really lose interest anymore. I'm still nervous and paranoid that I'll catch something or someone will find out, but I'm now able to enjoy the fact that I just had a hard cock in my mouth. I also get to look forward to having my mouth full of cock and cum instead of just me getting sucked.

[Secretcumlover]

I am sure this is completely normal. Long before I finally swallowed my first load i would crave cum really bad when I jacked off. I would shoot my load into the palm of my hand with the intent of licking it up . As soon as I came ,I would lose all desire and would wonder WTF was I thinking. I finally forced myself to do it and it was uneventful. Whenever I'd give someone head and wanted to experience his cum in my mouth I would chicken out at the last minute and finish him with my hand. One day I went through with it and I haven't missed a load since. I posted the story on here a few years ago. I had a regular suck buddy that I think had this same phobia after he nutted . He'd shoot his load and I would be all worked up sucking and stroking enjoying my reward and He'd make me stop immediately. He claimed he was sensitive and it was painful but I think there was more to it. It was like he was a different person after he came . A moment of clarity that he just let another man suck him off and was disgusted by it and had to gtfo immediately. Most the time I just suck the guy off then go jack off afterwards. But this morning I had a playdate and I shot my load while he was fucking me . That's never happened but it's omly the second time I've been fucked . I was still super horny so still sucked him off after he fucked me and without hesitation devoured every drop of his load . I guess I've overcome that little hangup .

[Mrdiscreet2]

I’d say you have overcome that hang up, Secretcumlover!

[Gregshaw]

IMO you're far more normal than you give yourself ctedit for. Back in college, when I first fooled around with guys, I'd often get blown by them & I'd lose interest once I'd cum. As others have said, mostly they weren't looking for anything in return so that wasn't a problem to begin with. I was the same with girls, but I learned how to make them cum, too & it was the same deal, once they'd cum they'd lose interest & scoot, so I don't think it's anything unusual regardless of being male or female, I think it's a normal reaction after your brain has been flooded with enormous amounts of pleasure inducing hormones. Relax & let it all find it's own level.

[ac9803]

Totally normal feelings. The first time I sucked a guy's dick I didn't know what the fuck I was feeling. I loved it, but i was raised in a very straight, "he-man" sort of environment and so I felt guilty and confused. To add to things, I knew that I still loved pussy!
I'm so sorry that I didn't accept the reality of my own bisexuality sooner, it would have saved me a bunch of confusion!

[unem1]

You know, it doesn't have to be your nut for that moment to strike. For me it was the second guy I met, the first I did a 69 with and was not as nervous. He was busily sucking on my cock, after he gave me an awkward rimming, but all I was concentrating on was his nice, fair sized uncut dick in my mouth. I mostly sucked the head and stroked his shaft, while I massaged his balls with my other hand. Now, it turns out he had control, until he didn't, and all of a sudden my happy sucking is interrupted as my mouth starts to just fill with cum. It tasted a tad funky (only time) and was in fact the moment I long desired. But then it hit me ... WTF ...
A man had just had an orgasm in my mouth and while I savored the taste of the delicious semen, I shortly ate every drop, every last sperm.
It crossed my mind: what am I doing, as I continued to suck, our heads bobbing up and down buried in each others crotch. I am an exceedingly happily married middle aged guy, with a younger sexy wife and a great family ...
And here I am, on a bed with an otherwise nice stranger, naked, his cock in my mouth, his spermatozoa in my belly, and I was enjoying every second!

[DMercator]

Now that I've opened up or accepted I'm bi, I don't really lose interest anymore. I'm still nervous and paranoid that I'll catch something or someone will find out, but I'm now able to enjoy the fact that I just had a hard cock in my mouth. I also get to look forward to having my mouth full of cock and cum instead of just me getting sucked.

That's been my experience as well. I don't play often and when I have it's only after getting to know the guy I was with. We had a lot in common... age, family, sexual experiences in our youth etc. They were more playmates than hook ups. Made a big difference and a much more enjoyable experience.

[Northparkbi]

That's pretty common. I know that after I cum, I need a while to re-charge. That's why I always like him to cum first. Of course it's easier with a group. A different rhythm asserts itself in cases like that, and I can watch while I'm re-charging, and that helps me get ready for the next round.

[Orgasmus]

It sucks, but it all boils down to basic male physiology. Guys lose their sexual desire almost immediately after orgasm primarily due to the "refractory period"—a biological recovery phase driven by the release of hormones in the brain, most notably prolactin and oxytocin, which suppress dopamine, the chemical that causes sexual desire.

It doesn't matter how aroused I am or how into my partner I am, once I climax, the show is pretty much over. As soon as my orgasm subsides, the idea of helping my partner get off seems kind of tedious and disinteresting. The desire is just gone.

I recall one instance with my buddy Dave. We were locked in a “69.” I was still pretty new to bisexual play, but I remember marveling that I could be so completely into sucking another guy’s cock while he sucked mine. I’d have done anything he wanted – anything.

Suddenly my orgasm arrived and I had an unusually powerful cum, which Dave accepted eagerly. Then. as the last contractions subsided, the thrill of what we’d been sharing was completely gone. I dutifully brought my partner off, but it was about as interesting as arranging my sock drawer.

From then on, I always made sure Dave got off before I did.